How do we really make changes in our lives? And do we disappoint ourselves of keep the promises? Here is figuring out where we really stand on this issue of goals and resolutions. This is a paid affiliate post.
Are you planning big changes for 2018? You’re not happy with your current lifestyle and want to shake things up this year. Maybe you’ve set goals of losing weight, getting fitter and sticking to an extreme diet.
Here’s a couple of things to keep in mind when your struggling with those New Year’s resolutions.
Why change at all?
It’s important to take a step back and ask yourself why you want to change at all. If you’ve got a great reason like improving your health then that’s fantastic but if you’re just doing it for the sake of it then you may find yourself falling at the first hurdle.
Do you believe the grass is greener on the other side? Well it’s time to go there and really find out for yourself.
First of all let’s just throw them out the window altogether. Making big challenging promises to yourself can result in even more unhappiness. If you fail to achieve these conquests you may find yourself in even more misery than you started in and relapse into an even worse version of yourself.
If you really want to make change then set yourself some smaller goals that you know you can complete. You’ll be surprised to find that they all add up throughout the year. Telling yourself you’ll stop smoking or drinking for one month then going back to the same regime is pointless.
Promising yourself you’ll quit altogether is even harder. Look at reducing gradually over time. You’ll have gone cold turkey before you know it.
Know who you are
It’s actually quite a big question and most if us go through life without really asking ourselves who we think, know or believe ourselves to be. We’re all different. No two humans are the same.
That’s very important to keep in mind when your changing your life to be more like someone else. Be yourself. The best version of that. If you take a fish out of water it’s going to look pretty dumb.
That means find out what your strengths are. What your good at.
Don’t waste time forcing yourself to learn the guitar of you’re not musically gifted. Try different hobbies until one sticks. The world could be waiting for your genius to strike in areas you haven’t even thought about before.
Are you trying to make changes with blind faith. No routine, schedule or plan of attack. If your brains programmed to do something it will continue to do that by fighting against any change you throw at it.
If you’ve found a comfort zone in life then that’s where you’ll subconsciously be feeling safe, that’s where you’ll want to learn. You’ll have to push yourself out of this and reprogram all the wiring that goes on inside.
There’s plenty of course online that help with this. Check out this website masterthemind.com for more ideas. There’s also plenty of great books that can boost your self esteem and confidence in a manner that you may discover you don’t want to change yourself at all.
So don’t waste your time with resolutions, throw them away before you give yourself even the slightest chance of failing at them.
So is the grass greener on the other side or are we ready to truly make this New Year the one we create our own new reality?
In peace and gratitude,