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letting go
Oh, how often have we heard that expression, just let it go? And sometimes the meaning changes, as in why can’t you just let it go, or, its time to just let go.

And I think they both ultimately have the same meaning, but not the same intent.

For instance, I know that when I focus on something it gets bigger in my head. But when I just let it go, there is no longer the weight of it. Do you know what I mean?

And I am not comfortable when someone demands that I let something go. Are you? That is not my process. And it feels so confrontational.

But when we make the choice to let things go, that is so much softer and empowering. And it also signals that we are more than ready to just do the emptying.

In terms of our spiritual health, it is a much gentler reminder that we just don’t need that thought or back story.

So what does it really mean to let it go? What is the secret to letting go?

letting go and letting love in


Letting go is the ability to acknowledge a thought but then not hold on to it. It is realizing it does not belong to us. When we hold on to it, we are creating a sense of story. And that story is not always in our best interest.

We all have experienced that sense of baggage, right? Whether it is about how someone Well letting go is actually freeing ourselves from this load.

It is just something that is passing through. We do not own it or need to hang on to it. And the secret to letting go is allowing ourselves to be fully in the present. But we cannot be in the present if we are still lagging in the past thoughts.

To me when I allow myself to let go, I am also reaffirming that sense of positive self-love. Knowing that there is no longer a need to diminish self. So that adds another layer of freedom and self-love.

Have you felt that?
Does that make sense?

Well please watch this Matt Kahn video. And do let me know what you think. Letting go



 Here Oprah talks about letting go of our past and letting in forgiveness.

Deciding to let go of all that was so there is room for that is coming is the best gift we can give to ourselves. It is total freedom and compassionate loving.

When we give ourselves the gift of letting go, it impacts everything in our lives. In our conversations we no longer feel judgment or pain. Instead, we are merely observers. Free to be living fully in the moment of sharing.


becoming and letting go

To prepare for this meditation, sit down at a table. Get out paper and pen.
Write down some things that keep popping up in your thoughts.
Now picture each of these thoughts as 10 pound sacks.
That makes them pretty heavy doesn’t it?

Do you really want to carry this weight around?
Nope, did not think so. So here is the next step.

Decide what you truly need to keep and what needs to be discarded.

Ask your body if you need this thought. If not,
take a deep cleansing breath and then let it go

If you hear the answer no, see it as a sack on the table.
Do this with all your thoughts right now.

Then look at those heavy filled sacks in front of you.
Knowing these are not needed, we will gather them all and deposit them into a trashcan.

Take another breath, cleansing yourself of all that baggage.

letting go of luggage

Now sit with your eyes closed and take another breath.
See the lightness in your mind now. The clutter is gone.
There is nothing to hold you back.

Breathe in and out 5 times.

Let the space expand in its own freedom.

And say.
I am free to be

I am lighter because I do not hold on

holding on to baggage

Take another breath and shake out your body.

Feel how much lighter you are feeling?


This is a great exercise to do any time you feel overwhelmed or like there is
way too much baggage going on.

Let me know how it works for you. Feels so good to feel lighter, yes?




Letting go is the metaphor for how we choose to live our lives. The secret of letting go is allowing us to be free to be in this very moment. To be fully present. And that is the gift we are all seeking.

I don’t know about you, but I do not want to be carrying around excess baggage. It makes no sense to me. It is not part of my being and living in this moment. For bringing in old baggage holds us frozen to a place that no longer exists.

So stretch out your arms and see yourself as free! Just let go!

The incredible sense of freedom is so expansive and reassuring. It allows us to truly live in this moment. And what is better that being fully present? Nothing!

How do you usually handle knowing that it is time to let go of our past stories and thoughts?

I would really like to hear.

In peace and gratitude,

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18 thoughts on “WHAT IS THE SECRET TO LETTING GO? And Living In Today

  1. A big thing is letting go of things I have no control over.
    It can be a burden to carry these things that are part of life but out of my control.
    Releasing them brings freedom.

    1. Hello Tania, that is so very true and well said! When we realize we have no need for control that is when letting go is so much easier and we are free to be in the present. Thanks for being here. In peace and gratitude, ariel

  2. I like your recommendation about visualizing things as heavy sacks. It reminded me of learning something similar several years ago, but at that time I was told to imagine rocks, then visualize writing our problems on them and dropping them in a well.

    I used to do that quite often, and found that it did help. I don’t know why I stopped, but now after reading this, perhaps it is time to start again.

    1. Hello Craig, oh the rocks work too! Its just the idea that we are aware and ready to let go. That is the gift of all of this as it leads to truly being able to live in this lovely moment. In peace and gratitude, ariel

  3. Dear Ariel,
    This is such a wonderful article. I can feel the energy that you took the time to compose it. Simply beautiful.
    Yes, there are times we need to ‘let it go’ and breathe (literally and figuratively); and yes, no one likes to be ‘told’ what to do, even with as gentle words as such.
    Your meditative practice/exercise is also wonderful and so easy to do. I loved everything in this article, I can only say: Thanks so much for sharing.

    1. Hello Michelle, so lovely to be able to chat with you! Thank you for such kind words. It is so true when we let go we let flow..yes? I hope that if you use this practice you will let me know how it works for you. In peace and gratitude, ariel

  4. Dear Ariel,

    Wow great post and when you said “When we give ourselves the gift of letting go, it impacts everything in our lives. In our conversations we no longer feel judgment or pain. Instead, we are merely observers. Free to be living fully in the moment of sharing.” I wanted to give a standing ovation.

    The best thing is you are not only addressing the problem you are helping us on, how to get rid of that… Thanks a lot.

    Your Friend,

    1. Hello Paul, my dear friend it is so lovely to see you here! Thank you! The visual of you doing a standing ovation, made me feel so warm and fuzzy! You are so very kind. So do let me know if this exercise works for you. In peace and gratitude, ariel

      1. Dear Ariel,

        I am practicing it (seeing 50% results) and to be honest I am yet to follow it completely but I am practicing it. For example few times I forgot what I learnt here and in few occasions I remembered it and able to control my anger…. So I am practicing it and going forward I will implement it 100%.

        Your Friend,

        1. Hello Paul, it takes time to make changes for sure. Just the fact that you are aware is how we grow and change. I think you are doing really well by trying. In peace and gratitude, ariel

    1. Hello Brit, Thank you so much for dropping by. To me letting go is the way to really fly free. I so hope you find that comfort and ease. When we let go, we let the Universe guide us and that is just lovely. In peace and gratitude, ariel

  5. What Oprah said is so profound: forgiving allows us to move forward so that the past does not hold us prisoner or hostage.

    As I read your article, Ariel, I thought of a book that I’ve read by Max Lucado, “Traveling Light”. Although he uses many Scriptural references throughout his book, the concept of what he speaks of is one that could be adapted for anyone, which is simply this:

    It’s difficult to live life – really live it to the full – if we’re constantly carrying “excess luggage”.

    1. Hello Veronica ,so lovely to see you here.Thanks so much for stopping by. I have suggested as an exercise that we look at our bundles and decide which ones can be discarded to lighten the load.So that we are free to go forward in more joy. In peace and gratitude,ariel

  6. Sometimes not letting go of something can eat on us to the point of causing physical sickness. My philosophy is if it is something I cannot change or is out of my control it is best to flush it from my mind and not let it poison my thoughts. Good post Ariel

    1. Hello Craig, I think this is so very true! Holding on to it only makes it so much worse and larger. Letting go to me is the mantra for going forward. So many thanks for being here. IN peace and gratitude, ariel

  7. Hi Ariel,
    Nice article and good advice on letting go. Sometimes, it is difficult to let go, since there are consequences of letting go. Any way, prepare and let go!

    1. Hello Anthony, I hear you! And when we hold on we no longer are living in the present and getting to see the gifts of this moment. The only consequences that i see, is letting go of familiar to chart new territories and paths. So glad you are here, wishing you the best. In peace and gratitude, ariel

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