How to gain more self confidence and inspire yourself in 5 steps
Sometimes we all have moments when we really wonder where our self confidence went.
Yes, I can gain more self confidence. Because I am loving me today! And that comes with practice and steps to help change our thinking. Here are 5 steps to gain more self confidence.
And we are not saying that from the ego space. Rather, it comes from a deep place within where what we know is true about ourselves. Our authentic heart self.
Granted, there are days when we are just not sure about where we fit in, or how we are doing in the world.
I remember hearing Oprah say that as every interview ended, no matter how famous the interviewee is, they always ask her, how did I do?
No matter who we are, or what we have achieved we all want to know that we have been heard, seen and listened to, and know inside of ourselves we are worthy.
So what are the steps to to more self confidence?
GAIN MORE SELF CONFIDENCE, 5 STEPS:
Let go of judgment and learn discernment
Each day try something new
BE in the MOMENT
Look for new challenges and don’t stop yourself until you fulfill them
Meditate and Visualize
Just doing these 5 steps daily will change your outlook on how you view yourself and your world.
HOW TO WORK THESE STEPS TO MORE SELF CONFIDENCE:
One step at a time!
For instance, when I choose to let go of judgment I am far more open to opportunities and interactions with others. It means I no longer hold preconceived expectations or notions about myself or others. That way I can truly hear my heart and others.
You know the feeling when someone starts speaking and immediately we decide maybe we do not need to listen or don’t like the words that are being used?
I for one am not fond of that critic voice or as Arianna Huffiington called it my unwanted OBNOXIOUS roommate that lives in my head!
The choice is to not let our ego determine criticism of the person speaking, but instead tell ourselves to let go of any thoughts and just listen without judgment. Let our heart mind lead the way.
I have found when I do this, I am gifting myself the opportunity to hear another view point, while simultaneously allowing my mind to clear. Its very freeing.
And the unexpected perk is that I am being kinder to both myself and others.
That immediately boosts my self confidence. And now I have gained more self confidence.
Then there is discernment. That is the word/action that truly rocks my world!
When I am in discernment, I am the observer not the judge!
Observation has no judgment. That allows my mind to not have any constructs or distractions. It is like having a super power for not helpful thoughts! I can literally say, nope not now, I have no need for you! Stand back, I am in discernment.
Each day trying something new, is a favorite of mine. Especially when I was in my wheelchair, it was really easy to go the same route daily.
Because I know then exactly where the potholes in the sidewalks are, or where the sidewalks end and the easiest access to safely cross streets.
But in doing what is “safe”, I lost the ability to see it as more adventurous or connecting.
So now I try new routes, or short cuts, and I am usually rewarded in some way. I see something I had not noticed before, or more people smiled at me. The list of newness is endless. And it is part of the process to gain more self confidence, isn’t it?
And the perk to this is that it lifts my mood! I am smiling more. Go try it!
The next step is be in the moment. We have heard that so often.
What does that really mean to be in the moment?
I always thought it rather efficient, when as a young mother multi-tasking was the only way to live. How could I possibly be more in the moment than having to do 20 things simultaneously. Yes?
No, because doing 20 things simultaneously, although necessary when raising a family, also takes away from the moment of connection. If I am packing lunches while talking and directing and thinking about my very large to do list, I am not putting intentionality into the food my kids will be eating.
Although that might not be the most perfect example.
It is the idea that if I am not giving attention to one task at a time I have lost the ability to not only be fully present, but I have taken something away from the other person, or task that I am interacting with.
In doing so I have lessened both of us.
And that does not feel good or enhance or gain my sense of self confidence.
Being present is a really strong step to gaining self confidence because there is no time or room for speculation or judgment.
Try this exercise next time you start a conversation.
Tell yourself I am fully present in this moment. And then let go of that thought. Instantly the world looks sharper, more in focus, and brighter. And the conversation really flows from the heart and builds confidence.
Looking for new challenges is the utmost building block for knowing we can! And sometimes the challenges come without us even asking for them.
So what can you do today that challenges you to do something new?
Smiling? Starting a conversation with a stranger? Hugging yourself? Finding a new way to be more healthy? Spiritually check in ? Ride your bike two extra miles? Take that long walk.
Or take a huge plunge and learn something new and do not walk away from it until you have finished the project. That is a challenge for all of us…yes?
But as soon as we accomplish the project we have gained new self confidence. This then becomes something else we can check off the list, and add it to our resume of yup…I rock.
The last step in how to gain more self confidence that changed my life, is learning or expanding your own practice of meditation and visualization.
At the moments I was my at my lowest, so ill and isolated, not capable of taking care of my own needs, I knew that there must be something out there that would release this sense of being only my body.
So I started every day by just doing breath meditations. Being aware of my breath as it traveled all around my body. Try doing this twice a day and you will experience a release in your body, and feel lighter.
Then I started visualizing how my cells were getting stronger and more full of life. I saw them as capable of doing anything. When I did this twice a day, my body started responding in kind. I felt less pain.
And the most amazing thing happened, I saw myself not dis- abled but abled!
When we meditate and or visualize we are literally growing new neuropathways. That allows our bodies and thoughts to change . I remember reading that years ago, Neurologists believed that once neuropathways died there was no way to grow new ones.
Not true! Growing new neuropathways promotes the brain’s ability to accomplish new things and ultimately creates our new boundless sense of confidence.
So go out there to new uncharted territory and create your extraordinary gain of self confidence. You are so worth it!
How do you plan to inspire yourself and raise your confidence level? I want to hear how your self confidence is gaining and growing…and how you are building your new universe!
Please comment below.
In peace and gratitude,
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