Disability is truly coming to grips with living your life in what I have called my “new normal.” In the early stages of my being ill, I could not even stand the term. And in fact I learned that the word ‘invalid” really means in valid. We were not even seen.
But here is the lovely part of all of this. Disability is only how we choose to perceive it. It is happening only to our physical self. It is not our heart, our soul or our thoughts. And that gave me a new direction to handle being “disabled”. And that is what I wish for you.
Do everything you need to do to make this work for you. Do not choose to be defined by what is happening to your body. We do have choices here. And learning how to be your own advocate is the start of truly sending out this amazing one of a kind voice of yours.
So although the prognosis can be devastating and life altering, there are so many choices as to how we can choose to live it. And I would like to hear how you are managing your disability please. I have lived this. I know how it feels. And it really helps to have someone to talk too.
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Whether it is a lifelong disability, or one that has just occurred recently, struggling to deal with your disability can be a real pain. It is something which dramatically alters your entire life in a number of ways, and it can take a lot of getting used to even for the strongest of people.
However, there is always hope in terms of leading a full life, and it is important not to let it make you think that you can’t carry on. Nonetheless, it is going to dramatically affect how you do things, and with that in mind you should probably be sure to pay attention to some of the following.
I learned this is a really a valuable lesson. We can change our lives one step at a time even in disability. Read my story here please.
In this article, we are going to look at some of the aspects of coping with a disability which you will need to consider if you are to live life as fully as possible. Let’s take a look and see what you should consider.
Coming To Terms With It
When I realized that I was going to have to spend my life in a wheelchair, I really struggled with that. So I understand if you are going through this. And I would like to offer you this. Turn the language around. See it as your vehicle out of isolation. In fact my wheelchair was dubbed Air Force One. And each day I learned to thank it for its service.
One of the hardest parts of all or many people is just learning to accept it for what it is. It can be easy to let yourself feel that you can fight it or that it will not change things, but the sooner you accept the situation for what it is, the better off you will be.
Of course this is easier said than done, and it is during such a time that you will almost certainly need your family rallying around you to help you cope with the emotional side of things.
One of the best ways to come to terms with it faster is to carry out research into the disability, as the more you know, the more prepared you feel. This is an essential step in the process, and not to be overlooked.
Learning to accept the term disabled was a real journey for me. I had to come to grips with how people viewed me and whether or not that was in my best interest. So do the work indeed. Find out what you need to stay in a healthy state of mind. This can be the most fruitful period of your life.
The Practical Side
You also need to spend your time looking at the more practical elements of your disability, and this is something which can help you to keep your head screwed on when it comes to your disability.
You need to think about everything from how to get around to going to YourWheelchairHub to see which wheelchair is likely to be suitable for you. All of this can be stressful, but it is also necessary if you are to life your life as fully as possible with your disability taken into consideration.
Be sure to pay attention to the practical side as this is necessary for living a full life.
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Whoever is around you to help, be sure to make use of them as best as you can. They are there because they love you and are close to you, so you should do whatever you can to ensure that they help you out wherever possible. Don‘t be ashamed to ask for help – you need it, and those people are happy to give it.
With that on your side, you will feel that it is much easier to deal with everything which is happening to you, so make sure not to overlook this essential step.
For me the concept of being disabled was not easy to take in. And I found that when I released judgment on myself I was able to find ways to actually thrive. Learning how to ask for help was also huge for me. But then I saw the secret gift in it. When we ask for help we are also giving that other person the opportunity to fulfill their needs also. So it is not dependency, it becomes a mutually benefiting experience.
Do all the research you need to do to understand your own circumstances. And then figure out how to find a way to actually thrive within those perimeters. Or go outside the box and choose to not see any limiting options at all.
I know so well the complex situation of being disabled. I also know there is always hope somewhere. Do not let yourself stay in despair. I am here if you want to talk about it. I am a strong believer in YES WE CAN no matter the circumstances. And I know you can find ways to rise and thrive in this space.
Call on your own creative side, and just wait to be delighted at what comes forward. This could be your most creative period of your life.
Being disabled tends at times to make us feel isolated. This does not have to be. There so many resources from online places to talk to centers that you could attend. Do not limit yourself because of your physical limits. And know that when you are having moments of great energy, celebrate that. Go wild and just remember nothing has changed, only the physical. You are still beautiful and loved.
I am here, if you want to talk .
I wish you moments of great clarity as you see yourself for the huge heart you are.
Disabled does not mean dead or not worthy! It means we get to decide who and how we are. So go to it.
Thriving is yours for the taking!
I would really like to have this conversation with you. Please join in!
In peace and gratitude,
Founder, success-full-living.com. living one heart-centric moment at a time!