Dealing with life’s challenges is certainly not for the faint hearted. How do we find ways to let go of trauma and challenges to make it more peaceful? Here are some ideas of how to turn that lemon into sweet lemonade.
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Life is not easy. It can be tremendously difficult for many people. If people spoke to you of the traumas and difficulties they struggle with, it might seem that the entire world is a place of pain and unhappiness. This is not the case, but it’s also important to understand that the world is not a place of sunshine and roses.
People fall mentally and physically ill, as well as have terrible situations happen to them all of the time.
This can lead to a sense of ‘life disorientation,’ where the inner systems of our brain protect us from experiencing the same thing again. For example, someone who injured themselves falling from a platform in childhood, might well be afraid of heights for a long, long time.
This is a major oversimplification, and the reality is much more complex, but you can see the point.
Awakening from this life disorientation is difficult. It requires work, and a retooling of your purpose and meaning. It means looking your fears in the eye and trying to expand your internal sphere of influence and competence.
The way forward in life is never to avoid pain, but to be able to manage and handle it. This is the way meaning is generated in your life. The following tips should help you further:
See A Psychologist
A blog telling you to ‘seek meaning’ can help, but sometimes it’s not exactly what you need to hear. If you feel that your neuroticism has developed to a point that worries you, then seeing a psychologist should potentially be your first port of call.
These professionals often understand how to prod and try to find out what’s going on underneath the surface, even if the web of internal lies you have are so strong it can be difficult to see through. Through this they might be able to offer solutions, and as a result develop your healing regimen in a much more thorough and accelerated way.
It might sound superficial, but writing down your life story in chunks can help you to a dramatic degree. Writing is more than just putting thoughts to paper. It helps you organize the structure of your thinking, and make things real and tangible.
For example, feeling depressed for a time is easy to internalize and know in the back of your mind, but writing “I have been feeling depressed for months now and I need to take action to resolve this, treating myself as a person I love,” can allow you to make that reality tangible and present.
Writing why and how you think this situation has developed in journals (sleeping between entries,) and developing a plan of outside activity and goal setting no matter what can help you truly reorganize your life, because the paper becomes your new compass of orientation and self-understanding. Honestly, try it. You’ll be surprised at how beneficial it can be.
With these tips, getting over the most insidious of internal strife should be possible, and at the very least you will be on the right path.
Knowing that we are choosing to get help is the first step. There are many fine mental health clinics or hotlines to call should you be in a situation where you need immediate help. Also make sure you have supportive friends or family to help guide you through a difficult time. You do not have to be alone through trauma or sadness. Find all the resources you might need to help you get well and stronger.
In peace and gratitude,
Founder, success-full-living.com , living one heart -centric moment at a time