When placing our elderly relatives in care homes, we expect a standard of care and consideration. We expect them to be respected, looked after, cherished and to have their golden chapter of life one worth living.
We often make the decision to bring them to a community like this so they can take care of themselves more appropriately, and perhaps mitigate a health condition they are experiencing.
Of course, from time to time we hear on the news stories of neglect, negative treatment and outright punishment laid upon the elderly from sociopathic and to put it extremely nicely, those without an ethical bone in their body.
This is not the case for the vast majority of caring homes, that spend all day ensuring their practise of care is appropriate and well applied. The vast majority of care homes are staffed by people who genuinely care.
However, there is a percentage, no matter how small, of people who will experience gross negligence. No matter where your elderly relative stays, it’s best to keep in mind the warning signs for any stresses put upon them:
Quietness as a sign of Abuse of the Elderly
It might be that your elderly relative is usually the picture of enthusiasm and joy when you show up, but now they seem oddly quiet or strangely distant.
This isn’t always a sign of neglect or abuse. However it can be the sign that something isn’t quite right with them. Calmly discussing how they find the care home with yes or no questions can help them open up a little more, potentially helping you find out more about the situation they are in.
Never make them feel uncomfortable because sometimes, opening up can be hard, especially if they feel they’re putting you out by complaining. If you’re worried, you can move onto the following steps:
Obvious Signs of Abuse of the Elderly
Sometimes there will be obvious signs of neglect. A messy room, mismanaged medication, may even bruises on the arms. Your relative many complain about things going missing or perhaps the fact that they dislike leaving their room.
Obvious signs will mean a real need for collaborative care, and that you contact the professionals to have these issues taken care of. Using elderly care abuse attorneys immediately and taking your relative out of the home in a matter of moments may be essential, but be sure to collect as much photographic and documentary evidence possible before you do, as this can only help build your case.
Reporting the home and notifying the relatives of other residents might be your next step, but always refer to the legal professional in this case.
Abuse of the elderly in care, Gauging The Staff
Sometimes, gauging the staff of a care home can be a good exercise to ensure you learn the most about the current situation there. You may notice how they speak to other elderly in the facility, or how a personality shifts when they talk to you.
You may notice your elderly relative become much less talkative when they’re around. A clinical observation may reveal more to you than you had initially expected, and this should be conducted each and every time you visit the place.
If not sure, you have every right to remove your relative from the situation.
With these tips, telling your elderly relative is being mistreated can lead to immediate recovery of the issue and the means to ensure the best outcome is held.
If this is happening to you we apologize profusely for the tragedy of this situation, and hope your family manages to find a solution and from there, peace.
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SUMMARY ABUSE OF THE ELDERLY
It is unfathomable to many of us that abuse of the elderly even exists. In many cultures our elders are our leaders, our wise ones are steps to being so loved. So when we are seeing signs that something is going on, we cannot push it under the rug.
Its so important to stand up and find out immediately what is going on. Whether it is happening at a day center, or a full time home. When we see something happening we cannot just let it continue, can we?
And the signs are hard to miss, from a messy room to the more obvious bruises on their bodies. And then there is the behavior change. Did your beloved one suddenly go quiet or is showing signs of more fear? Is there a change in their behavior?
Are they not getting the medication or worse yet getting too much medication? When my dad was in a nursing home, we found out they had actually over medicated him. That was hard to have to set that straight.
It is just knowing that you are going to be truly vigilant in how your beloved one is doing. Because they always need an advocate, yes?
And if, we so hope this isn’t happening, we find that a family member is abusing our loved one, do stand up for that also. For perhaps the family member is extracting finances from the elderly loved one.
Its just so important to make sure that someine is constantly overseeing how your loved one is faring.
Have you had any experiences with abuse of the elderly? If so how did you handle it?
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