As we live in the cycle of life we are bound to deal with loss. And loss is something we all have to deal with. If we are also dealing with issues ourselves, such a s mental health challenges,death can be a trigger.
Knowing that, how do we make sure that we get through the grieving time with as much of our grounding as possible intact?
Here are some ways to consider to help mental challenges not become a huge issue as we face the death of a loved one.
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Losing a loved one is one of the most traumatic experiences in the world. It can take years for someone with a healthy mind to grieve and get over the loss.
However, those with mental health issues might receive the news harder than most. For that reason, there is some advice on this page that could prevent you from going over the edge, and ensure that your mental condition does not deteriorate too much.
Just take a read through some of the suggestions below, and then try to apply them to your circumstances. With a bit of luck, you will start to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Go to see your doctor straight away
As we go through this life change it is so very important to know that we are not doing this alone. Do make that appointment to see your health care practitioners to insure that you will have the support you need.
Even if you think you are not needing support, it is still better for your mental health to know that at any time you can reach out to someone.
The first thing you need to do is book an appointment to see your doctor or psychiatrist straight away. Explain that you have lost someone close to you.
And let them know you’re worried about your depression getting worse than it is right now.
And this is a testament to you as you navigate through this process, because you are taking the initiative to make sure you are getting the support and guidance that will see you through a most difficult time.
The professional might increase your medication as a preventative measure, and they could also arrange some sessions with a psychologist to help you through the next couple of months.
Being honest and open about the situation is essential if you want to get all the help you deserve and ensure you make it out the other side.
And I think this is a life skill. When we learn to be totally transparent and honest with our selves we are no longer holding on to things that could hold us back from healing and going forward in vibrancy.
Find ways to remember your loved one
Whether your friend or relative died over many months from lung cancers like pleural mesothelioma or something sudden like a heart attack; you just need to remember all your happy times together.
Maybe you could create a scrapbook or something similar? While that might sound like an unusual response to the trauma, ideas like that tend to work well.
There are so many lovely ways to preserve the memories of our loved ones. For me, when my Dad died one of my relatives who is a quilt maker, took his collection of ties and made then into pillows!
It was lovely to have something so tangible to hold. She made pillows for all the family members including the grandchildren! And everyone still puts that cherished memento in a place of honor in their home.
You could also visit all the places you used to travel together and see those sights one last time. Approaching the situation like that should prevent your mind from focusing on the morbid side of recent events.
And remembering that each cherished memory is something that can never be taken away.
Throw yourself into work or a new hobby
In times of change for me, as an artist, I always find my go to is creating. So finding a way to allow your emotions to rise and thrive is inherently the best way to navigate back to joy.
Distracting yourself is always a sensible move if you’re worried about the grieving process. Many people benefit from asking for overtime at work and keeping their brain active for as many hours during the day as possible.
If you can’t do that, maybe you could start a new hobby or something similar? People who enjoy staying at home could learn to play the guitar or master the art of knitting.
Those who enjoy spending time outdoors could join a walking or jogging group. The possibilities are endless and only limited by your imagination.
Now you know how to lift yourself up in the worst of situations, the idea of losing a loved one shouldn’t seem quite as traumatic as it once did.
Of course, you’re going to feel terrible for months, and that is the same reaction healthy people manifest.
The goal is just to remember that all is not lost, and that special person is still alive and well in your memories. Look after yourselves folks, and always speak out if you feel down!
As we go through loss, there is the inevitable sense of loss and sadness. The key to me is remembering wherever we are in the process is just fine. It is just the choice of knowing that we can mourn in ways that are deep and yet healing.
There is no denying that loss is painful. So taking care of our selves while we go through this process especially if we have mental health issues is the way to love our selves even harder.
Do consider doing the tips in this article.
And let me know how you deal with the dual issues of mental health and loss. Eventually there will be peace. It is going through the fire that we find our truth strength and inner love.
It is in this space that great healing and love take place. Do find that for yourself.
As always I wish you ease and comfort.
In peace and gratitude,
living one heart-centric moment at a time!